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Mar 08, 2011 @ 12:15 PM

3 Life Scenarios “Primed” to work with a Life Transition Coach…


How many times do you get asked... “So, what do you do?”  It happens all the time.  When I tell someone I’m a Life Transition Coach they often say “What’s that, and what type of people work with a Life Transition Coach?”  “Great questions”  - I say, “glad you asked.”  I explain there often certain life situations which spark the search for a life transition coach:

  1. Approaching (recently passing) a major life crossroads - career, empty nest, retirement
  2. Beginning again after a divorce
  3. Deciding to embark upon and live a ‘life-long dream’

There are certain life situations AND there are also 3 Life Scenarios “primed” to work with a life transition coach.  Often, as I explain each of these scenarios, someone I’m talking to will say... “Yeah, that sounds really familiar, I think that’s me.”  Do any of these sound familiar to you?

 

1. Our Own Worst Enemy: Keeping our own dreams at bay

This type knows what they want. They know what their goals, dreams or aspirations are. They have a pretty good idea what they’re destined to do or become, but for any number of reasons they haven’t done anything to achieve or realize them. They’re stalled. Stuck. Blocked from moving forward. This is no way to live. It’s wasted potential.  Their goal, dream or aspiration has been parked in a “wishful thinking garage” which is out of sight but often top of mind. This type is too busy, too tired, too distracted or too committed to other “priorities.” They are in that most useless of places “The Waiting Place,” (according to Dr. Seuss’s Oh, the Places You’ll Go). Such wasted time; time that if spent with the right coach could be turned into something so much more productive and meaningful.

  1. Typical Characteristics: No clear action plan. Multiple communication barriers acting as resistance to the dream.
  2. Common Obstacles: Fear/anxiety of what the possible outcomes, responses, changes in status quo might be. Fear of failure. A lack of a high degree of accountability. The design of WHAT they want and WHY they want it is not clear enough or bold enough to compel them to act.

 


2. The Fog: Substance surrounded by a lack of clarity and inaction
This type has a pretty good idea of what they don’t want, but aren’t real clear about what they do want. There are a lot of things they’re capable of and many things they’d like to experience. They are too distracted by all the choices and options that exist beyond just knowing what it is they don’t want. 

 

 

  1. Typical Characteristics: Too many ideas, possibilities, or considerations to choose from; no clear priority or preference
  2. Common Obstacles: Lack of self discovery, self assessment, self interrogation to define life’s purpose, passion, or vision. Other demands for time and life responsibilities seemingly prevent any real commitment to self.

 


3. The Robot: Existing merely to serve one routine purpose
These types find themselves living an almost mechanical routine doing the same thing again, and again and again. They have forgotten how to dream. They simply cannot imagine living their lives with great passion, enthusiasm or spark for life.

  1. Typical Characteristics: Too many reasons why things don’t or can’t work the way they want them to, not enough reasons why they can. Too many negative attitudes, negative forces, negative influencers have squelched their spark and spirit for dreaming and believing in the possibility of something better than what they live today.
  2. Common Obstacles: Their “reality” of today is fixed, they can’t see their own ability to affect and change their reality; their experience in the moment doesn’t have to last all the moments of their lives. They’ve been living the same story, telling the same story over and over and over that it ‘s the only story they know and they don’t know how to begin telling another one!

 

If you or someone you know fits one of these 3 Life Scenarios, please encourage them to get in touch with me.  I’d be happy to have a short conversation with them to explore whether working with a Life Transition Coach is something they feel could benefit them.  Thank you for your referral in advance!

 

Live your very best life!
-- Todd


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Recent Comments

Hi Todd,
Life transition coach sounds like a great career. These are all great points but I specially I love your #1 Our Own Worst Enemy: Keeping our own dreams at bay. We so often procrastinate on doing what we’re passionate about or following our dreams. Fear takes a hold of us and we feel that we can’t take the risk or take a leap. There is no need to wait to follow our dreams, all we have is now.
Thanks for the inspiration. Loving blessings



By Andrea DeBell - Britetalk on Mar 09, 2011 @ 12:27 AM



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